What are you willing to die for
A week ago I was in Germany to coach a leadership Team who’s company was recently taken over by a Russian company. Gugin has been been consulted on the organisational and cultural issues throughout the acquisition and integration process and we felt comfortable with the this post-merger situation, because everything has run pretty smooth and without any major dramas.
So I was surprised when I a month ago received an email from the chairman of the board telling me that the former CEO, CTO and CIO of the now acquired company had decided to leave. All three of them had been promoting the idea about seeking a global operating partner who would acquire the German company and all three of them became pretty wealthy from this transaction. They also agreed to stay for at least 18 months if they should avoid any financial penalty.
So we agreed that I should come to Germany and try to find out the underlying reasons behind these resignations. I didn’t like the situation because one of our main objectives is to make sure that the key stakeholders are comfortable and happy with the transition but obviously we missed something in this cultural transition process.
I managed to meet up with all three of them at the same time and they all seemed pretty relieved so I asked them what has changed since they suddenly decided to quit without having new senior executives roles at hand. It turned out that it was a week-end getaway with their families that has lead to this decision. These three people had started the german company 18 years ago and spent most of their time building and developing the company. They have had only few holidays and none of the three executives have had enough time to watch their children growing up, maintaining friendships or have any hobbies.
At that week-end in the French Alpes with their families they suddenly realised what they have missed. They were together for the first time in 18 years where they had no urgent matters to take care of. Their new roles were only briefly drafted for them but they did no longer have the overall responsibility for the company.
Friday night after some good bottles of wine they started to have this discussion about what it was worth dying for. They agreed that when they started the company (before meeting their wifes to be) their only consideration was to succeed with the company.
At our meeting in Germany last week I asked them what they were actually willing to die for as I believe it is an essential question to know the answer to because that answer reflects your deepest beliefs. They were quite intrigued by that question so I asked them; “would you die for your country?”. No was the answer from all of them. That was interesting. I have asked that question many times before to my students and when we coach leaders and I always pay attention to what people answer to the question about dieing for your country because it tells me a lot about the geographical mindset.
They became more comfortable about this morbid topic and they more or less agreed on that they were willing to die for their respective wifes and children. When asked how they had prioritised their wifes and children (the only ones they were willing to die for) over the past many years they became silent. After a while the CEO told me; “Finn, this is why we are quitting”.
It was evidently a wise decision but a question still remains. Why are so many of us spending most of our resources on subjects or people we are not willing to die for? I have met quite a few executives who in their 50’ies and 60’ies deeply are regretting that they didn’t prioritise their time more wisely earlier in life. Some of them are suffering from that their children don’t wan’t to see them as they were never around when the children needed them and some feel that they have spent all their resources and loyalty in companies who at the end of the day didn’t care at all.
So please ask yourself the question: “What am I willing to die for?” and then assess how you are prioritising your time according to the answer to that question.
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