When we accept behaviour today we wouldn’t accept before

by Finn Majlergaard | 18. Feb, 2025 | Blog

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Why we accept behaviour we didn't accept before

Unlike what we might initially think cultural values change over time. That is the truth for any culture - in fact no culture would be able to survice if it didn't adapt to the external environment all the time. When I was a little boy a zilion years ago it was the norm that people smoked everywhere. Both my parents were smoking everywhere - also in the car when we were driving somewhere despite I got tears in my eyes. People were smoking onboard airplanes. Both examples illustrate how the cultural norms have changed for the better. We have become wiser and that wisdom has influenced our behaviour.

That is usually how cultures develop. They progress because we get wiser. Unfortunately it sometimes goes the other way too - that we accept behaviour we didn't accept before.

Not all cultural changes are driven by wisdom

Unlike the changes described above, where behavioural change was driven by increased wisdon we have another type of cultural changes. These changes are driven by people or organisations who have the power and means to influence and manipulate a group of people. That can be a group of employees, an ethnic group, a country's population, a social group  - literally any group.

Throughout history religious leaders have succeeded in manipulating their followers by playing on fear. Fear is by far our most influental motivation factor and if you understand how powerful it is you can gain a lot of influence. Religious leaders were the first ones to discover the power of fear. They still exercise it to some extend in some parts of the world. But politicians have taken over as the dominant group to use fear as a mean to manipulate groups of people. When you become good at that you can actually initiate a cultural change.

Over the years we have seen several organisations where management maintained a certain level of fear among the employees in order for them to work harder or exercise a certain behaviour. A lot of parents use fear (in a mild form) when raising their children.

Donald Trump is the most prominant example of how well fear works. He exercise a behaviour no one would have accepted before. Barack Obama received the Nobel peace prize largely because the Bush era was over. Today most people would be grateful to have George Bush back.

Trump has successfully managed to impose a fear in the lower middle class USA, so that they see him as a saviour despite he does absolutely nothing for their social group. They accept his behaviour and his politic despite it contradicts all their own interests. They do it because they feel and think that they have to live with that behaviour in order to be protected from that imaginary fear that has been imposed on them.

It is the same reason why some people accept being abused or stressed out at work to an extend where they get seriously ill.

What will happen when Trump is gone?

Will we go back to the "old" normal or will the presidency have changed forever? I believe we have developed a new normal. Hopefully we will not get a new Trump type but the next president will be able to get away with a lot more than any other president before Trump.

Is it good or bad? In this case I think it is extremely bad because it is not a cultural change initiated by a need of the society or new wisdom, but purely by a single person's greed and his lack of interpersonal skills.

Hopefully the politicians will see it as a wake-up call for modernising the political system, so that this can't happen again.

There are Trumps everywhere

There are trumps everywhere, as CEO of companies, as religious leaders, a political leaders, as parents - everywhere. They are usually harmless because they only influence a smaller group of people.

How do we get wisdom and knowledge back as the driver for cultural change?

On a global scale most cultural change is driven by wisdom and knowledge. Don't forget that. When we change behaviour because we realise the old behaviour was harmful, when we work on developing democratic institutions as replacements for conflicts, when we invest in education and so on, we motivate behavioural change because of wisdom and knowledge. And that will continue.

How do you make sure you influence the culture of your organisation the right way?

Before you can assess whether or not your are influencing yout culture the right way you need to have an idea of what the ideal culture would look like. Gugin can help you make that idea visible and tangible through our cultural due diligence process where we assess and evaluate a large number of papameters that together form what we call the Cultural DNA.

When you have the ideal cultural DNA you can compare it with the actual cultural DNA. That compasison will give you an idea of when cultural change processes are most important and you will have the key indicators for measuring the progress.

Gugin can facilitate that process together with you. We will do that based on our cultural DNA framework which we started to develop in 2004. The framework is in a constant finetuning process as the world is change all the time.

We look forward to hear from you.

What separates a good leader from one who truly moves people? Research — and decades of cultural intelligence practice — point to one word: charisma. And unlike talent, charisma can be learned.

In 1979, Warner Records refused to send Prince on tour. Not because of his music — they knew he was exceptional — but because he lacked charisma. He couldn't yet move an audience. Fast forward one year, and Prince had transformed himself into one of the most commanding performers in the history of popular music. He didn't wait for charisma to arrive. He worked at it, systematically, studying and adopting the techniques of the performers he admired.

That story is not just about rock and roll. It is a precise metaphor for leadership. At Gugin, we have spent over two decades helping leaders across cultures and industries make exactly this kind of transformation — not by telling them to "be more confident," but by equipping them with concrete, learnable strategies rooted in emotional intelligence, cultural intelligence, and communication science.

 

Why Most Charisma Advice Fails

The most common advice leaders receive about charisma is frustratingly vague: project confidence, be warm, be present. These qualities do matter. But they are nearly impossible to "just do" on command, especially under pressure, across cultures, or in unfamiliar organisational contexts.

Research by Professor John Antonakis and his colleagues at the University of Lausanne Business School has shown that charisma is not a personality trait reserved for the few — it is a set of communicative behaviours that can be identified, taught, and practised. In their studies, randomly selected middle managers who underwent structured charisma training were subsequently rated by peers and subordinates as more charismatic, more competent, and more trustworthy. The training worked.

At Gugin, we have built on this science and gone further — weaving it together with emotional intelligence (EQ) and cultural intelligence (CQ) to create a leadership development approach that is both evidence-based and globally applicable.

The Nine Charismatic Behaviours — And What They Really Require

The Antonakis research identifies nine concrete charismatic leadership tactics: using metaphors and stories, showing moral conviction, expressing shared feelings, setting high expectations, using contrast and rhetorical questions, using lists, and animating communication with body language. These are the building blocks. But building blocks need a foundation — and that foundation is emotional and cultural intelligence.

Take metaphors, for example. A metaphor is only powerful if it resonates with the audience. In Gugin's cross-cultural leadership programmes, leaders quickly discover that a metaphor drawn from American sports culture may fall flat in a team from Northern Europe, and that a story invoking individual heroism may alienate a collectivist audience in East Asia. The charismatic tactic is the same; the cultural calibration is everything.

The same applies to moral conviction. Appealing to shared values is one of the most potent charismatic tools a leader has. But whose values? Which moral frameworks? A leader operating across multiple cultural contexts must understand that concepts like fairness, loyalty, duty, and hierarchy carry profoundly different weight in different cultures. High cultural intelligence — the ability to read, respect, and adapt to cultural difference — is what allows a leader to express genuine moral conviction that actually connects rather than alienates.

Emotional Intelligence: The Inner Architecture of Charisma

Charisma without emotional grounding is performance. It can work in the short term, but it rarely sustains trust. The leaders Gugin works with are taught to understand that emotional intelligence is not a soft supplement to charismatic leadership — it is its inner architecture.

Consider the tactic of expressing shared feelings. Antonakis identifies this as key: when a leader says "I feel the same uncertainty you do, and here is how I am holding it," they build identification and trust. But this requires real self-awareness. Leaders must be able to name and regulate their own emotional states before they can credibly reflect the emotions of others. In Gugin's programmes, we invest significant time in developing exactly this capacity — helping leaders identify their emotional triggers, understand how their inner states broadcast outward, and build the emotional vocabulary needed to communicate with authenticity.

Empathy — a core dimension of emotional intelligence — also directly underpins several charismatic behaviours. Setting high expectations while simultaneously communicating belief in others (another of the Antonakis tactics) requires a leader who genuinely sees the potential in the people around them. That kind of seeing is empathic. It cannot be faked over time. When Prince produced the band The Time for Warner Brothers, he did not simply demand excellence — he made each member believe they were capable of more than they thought. That is emotionally intelligent leadership in action.

Cultural Intelligence: Charisma That Travels

One of the most important — and most overlooked — dimensions of charismatic leadership in today's world is its cultural portability. A leader who is magnetic in one cultural context may be perceived as arrogant, shallow, or inappropriate in another. This is not a flaw in those audiences. It is a signal that charisma, like all communication, is culturally embedded.

Gugin's work in over 60 countries has shown us that the nine charismatic tactics are universal in their structure but must be culturally adapted in their expression. Rhetorical questions, for instance, invite participation and create anticipation — but their delivery must match the power-distance norms of the audience. In high-hierarchy cultures, a rhetorical question from a senior leader may silence a room rather than energise it. In low-hierarchy cultures, it may spark exactly the engagement intended. Cultural intelligence tells the leader which dynamic they are working in, and how to adjust.

Similarly, the use of storytelling — one of the most powerful charismatic tools — varies enormously across cultures in terms of what stories are appropriate, how direct or indirect they should be, and what kinds of protagonists resonate. Gugin teaches leaders to build a culturally diverse repertoire of stories and to develop the sensitivity to know which story belongs in which room.

How Gugin Trains Charismatic Leaders

Gugin's leadership development programmes integrate the science of charismatic communication with structured development in emotional and cultural intelligence. The process is iterative and experiential, not theoretical.

Leaders begin by gaining honest self-awareness: understanding how they are currently perceived, what emotional signals they project under pressure, and how their default communication style reads across cultures. This foundation phase often surfaces important blind spots — the technically brilliant executive who speaks too abstractly to inspire, the empathetic manager whose conflict-avoidance reads as a lack of conviction.

From there, leaders move into skill-building: practising charismatic communication tactics in safe, structured environments with real feedback. They learn to craft metaphors that carry cultural resonance, to tell personal stories that build connection without oversharing, to use contrast and rhetorical structure to sharpen their message. They receive coaching on non-verbal communication — the body language, vocal variety, and presence that Antonakis identifies as essential to bringing charisma alive.

Finally, leaders apply these skills in live contexts, with coaching support, and receive 360-degree feedback that tracks their progress. This mirrors the approach Antonakis found to be effective — group training combined with individual coaching — and embeds it within the broader cultural and emotional intelligence framework that makes the development durable and globally relevant.

Charisma as a Leadership Responsibility

There is a deeper point worth making. Charisma is not about making yourself more impressive. At its best, it is about making others feel seen, energised, and capable of more than they believed. It is about communicating in a way that bridges difference, builds shared purpose, and creates the conditions for people to do their best work.

In a world where leaders must navigate unprecedented complexity — technological disruption, geopolitical volatility, multi-generational and multicultural workforces — the ability to communicate with clarity, conviction, and emotional resonance is not optional. It is a strategic capability.

Prince didn't work on his charisma because he wanted to be famous. He worked on it because he knew, instinctively, that the music mattered — and that without the ability to connect, the music would never reach the people it was meant for.

The same is true of leadership. The work matters. Charisma is what carries it across.

 

About Gugin  |  Gugin is a global advisory firm specialising in cultural and emotional intelligence. We help organisations build the leadership capability to thrive in a complex, multicultural world. Learn more at www.gugin.com

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