Cultural conflicts – Here is the 1 thing that resolves most

by Finn Majlergaard | 19. Mar, 2025 | Blog, Article

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Cultural conflicts in the workplace

Most times when I do speeches or workshops I ask the audience if they have ever been in cultural conflicts they could have avoided if they had been more cultural intelligent at that time. Mostly 90 - 100% answer yes to that question. Those of you who know me and Gugin know that I and my colleagues in Gugin have worked on resolving cultural conflicts all over the world for the past 16 years.

We very rarely get surprised when we analyse the situation in a company or organisation. We have seen most scenarios before - even the more extraordinary and bizarre ones. And I will say we have managed to develop some powerful tools to help these organisations.

Yet there is one simple "tool" that works better than anything else.

Mostly when we meet the client for the first time we are invited into a room like this.

cultural conflictAn anonymous meeting room with nice, usually expensive furniture in a very sleek and clean design.

It is usually organised with a big (enormous sometimes) table in the middle with one seat at the end of the table where you can control all the gadgets, the curtains, the light. A great place to be if you want to show off.

For some purposes, this configuration is, of course, practical, but I don't believe it is ideal for any situation.

And it is totally disastrous if you have a group of people who are in the middle of a conflict. Only if you are a lawyer representing one of the parties it makes sense with a configuration like this because it will keep the conflict alive forever.

That is because there are only things in there that separate people. The table creates a division and distance that underpins the psychological and emotional distance you had when you entered the room. The person who takes the seat with the gadget controls inevitably gets control of what is happening.

We were recently in a situation like this, where we decided to try something we have never tried before. We usually take them out of the meeting room and into a location where they are all equal. It can be a room without chairs and tables, or somewhere outside.

This situation was quite severe and it had been going on for a long time. It was a conflict between the sales department, the product development department and the owners (family-owned company) - a threesome. If two of them could have gone along they could have ended the conflict. But that was not the case.

We have the option of taking teams into the Borneo Rainforest on a survival trip in situations like this, but they were too many and we didn't have time to organise it. But we could get them to Nice on the French Riviera, where Gugin has its headquarters. The company is in the food and beverage industry so despite all their differences they all had an interest in food.

This is what we did

They arrived late morning in Nice Airport (24 of them - all middle managers, executives and the family representatives) from 2 different locations in Europe. We have told them nothing about what was going to happen. We had a bus ready for them when arrived. When they were all on board the bus they got a glass of champagne (my favourite of course). We started the scenic tour up in the mountains, where we stopped at a restaurant for lunch. We had organised it with 3 tables of 8 and people could sit where they wanted. They distributed themselves across the 3 tables almost as we had anticipated. During the one hour lunch, they started to become quite talkative and less suspicious about what we were up to.

After lunch, we got back in the bus en route to visit 3 vineyards in our region. Each place they got an introduction to the vineyard, the grapes, the history and the wines. And of course a wine tasting in the end. The participants had become even more relaxed. So far so good.

Around sunset, we arrived at a boutique hotel in the mountains. The participants thought they were going to sit down and enjoy a meal. They were not. After we divided them into 3 random groups of 8 the head chef came and picked them up and took them to the kitchen. There they were presented with all the ingredients they would need to prepare that evening's meal. Starter, Main course and Dessert.

A representative from each group had a meeting where they decided on who should do what. It went much faster than we anticipated.

They were all handed out the menu and the recipes. They started to plan as they couldn't all be in the kitchen at the same time. Over time they became very talkative. Around 23:30 the dinner was ready.

It tasted awful - most of it, but they had a great time focusing on something that they all had a passion or at least an interest for. The transition was almost magical. The conflicts they had in the office seemed vanished. The original issues popped up once in a while during the preparation, during dinner and during the night. But the response was different. "We figure it out when we come back", "Oh I never knew you saw it that way" and "I am sorry if I hurt you" were some of the phrases we heard over and over again when they brought up the work-related issues.

 

What can we learn?

Always focus on the commonalities, and do it so powerful that the people in the conflict - at least for some time - forget what they were fighting about. When they come back to reality the perspective is totally changed.

We met with this group 3 days after the food event in the mountains for a workshop where we should identify what we could do to reconcile the difference and move forward.

There was so much positive energy and the mindset of each individual had changed too. and by the way. Instead of inviting us into a meeting room, they had organised a picnic on the lawn in front in their headquarter. Pretty cool. I am proud of them!

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What separates a good leader from one who truly moves people? Research — and decades of cultural intelligence practice — point to one word: charisma. And unlike talent, charisma can be learned.

In 1979, Warner Records refused to send Prince on tour. Not because of his music — they knew he was exceptional — but because he lacked charisma. He couldn't yet move an audience. Fast forward one year, and Prince had transformed himself into one of the most commanding performers in the history of popular music. He didn't wait for charisma to arrive. He worked at it, systematically, studying and adopting the techniques of the performers he admired.

That story is not just about rock and roll. It is a precise metaphor for leadership. At Gugin, we have spent over two decades helping leaders across cultures and industries make exactly this kind of transformation — not by telling them to "be more confident," but by equipping them with concrete, learnable strategies rooted in emotional intelligence, cultural intelligence, and communication science.

 

Why Most Charisma Advice Fails

The most common advice leaders receive about charisma is frustratingly vague: project confidence, be warm, be present. These qualities do matter. But they are nearly impossible to "just do" on command, especially under pressure, across cultures, or in unfamiliar organisational contexts.

Research by Professor John Antonakis and his colleagues at the University of Lausanne Business School has shown that charisma is not a personality trait reserved for the few — it is a set of communicative behaviours that can be identified, taught, and practised. In their studies, randomly selected middle managers who underwent structured charisma training were subsequently rated by peers and subordinates as more charismatic, more competent, and more trustworthy. The training worked.

At Gugin, we have built on this science and gone further — weaving it together with emotional intelligence (EQ) and cultural intelligence (CQ) to create a leadership development approach that is both evidence-based and globally applicable.

The Nine Charismatic Behaviours — And What They Really Require

The Antonakis research identifies nine concrete charismatic leadership tactics: using metaphors and stories, showing moral conviction, expressing shared feelings, setting high expectations, using contrast and rhetorical questions, using lists, and animating communication with body language. These are the building blocks. But building blocks need a foundation — and that foundation is emotional and cultural intelligence.

Take metaphors, for example. A metaphor is only powerful if it resonates with the audience. In Gugin's cross-cultural leadership programmes, leaders quickly discover that a metaphor drawn from American sports culture may fall flat in a team from Northern Europe, and that a story invoking individual heroism may alienate a collectivist audience in East Asia. The charismatic tactic is the same; the cultural calibration is everything.

The same applies to moral conviction. Appealing to shared values is one of the most potent charismatic tools a leader has. But whose values? Which moral frameworks? A leader operating across multiple cultural contexts must understand that concepts like fairness, loyalty, duty, and hierarchy carry profoundly different weight in different cultures. High cultural intelligence — the ability to read, respect, and adapt to cultural difference — is what allows a leader to express genuine moral conviction that actually connects rather than alienates.

Emotional Intelligence: The Inner Architecture of Charisma

Charisma without emotional grounding is performance. It can work in the short term, but it rarely sustains trust. The leaders Gugin works with are taught to understand that emotional intelligence is not a soft supplement to charismatic leadership — it is its inner architecture.

Consider the tactic of expressing shared feelings. Antonakis identifies this as key: when a leader says "I feel the same uncertainty you do, and here is how I am holding it," they build identification and trust. But this requires real self-awareness. Leaders must be able to name and regulate their own emotional states before they can credibly reflect the emotions of others. In Gugin's programmes, we invest significant time in developing exactly this capacity — helping leaders identify their emotional triggers, understand how their inner states broadcast outward, and build the emotional vocabulary needed to communicate with authenticity.

Empathy — a core dimension of emotional intelligence — also directly underpins several charismatic behaviours. Setting high expectations while simultaneously communicating belief in others (another of the Antonakis tactics) requires a leader who genuinely sees the potential in the people around them. That kind of seeing is empathic. It cannot be faked over time. When Prince produced the band The Time for Warner Brothers, he did not simply demand excellence — he made each member believe they were capable of more than they thought. That is emotionally intelligent leadership in action.

Cultural Intelligence: Charisma That Travels

One of the most important — and most overlooked — dimensions of charismatic leadership in today's world is its cultural portability. A leader who is magnetic in one cultural context may be perceived as arrogant, shallow, or inappropriate in another. This is not a flaw in those audiences. It is a signal that charisma, like all communication, is culturally embedded.

Gugin's work in over 60 countries has shown us that the nine charismatic tactics are universal in their structure but must be culturally adapted in their expression. Rhetorical questions, for instance, invite participation and create anticipation — but their delivery must match the power-distance norms of the audience. In high-hierarchy cultures, a rhetorical question from a senior leader may silence a room rather than energise it. In low-hierarchy cultures, it may spark exactly the engagement intended. Cultural intelligence tells the leader which dynamic they are working in, and how to adjust.

Similarly, the use of storytelling — one of the most powerful charismatic tools — varies enormously across cultures in terms of what stories are appropriate, how direct or indirect they should be, and what kinds of protagonists resonate. Gugin teaches leaders to build a culturally diverse repertoire of stories and to develop the sensitivity to know which story belongs in which room.

How Gugin Trains Charismatic Leaders

Gugin's leadership development programmes integrate the science of charismatic communication with structured development in emotional and cultural intelligence. The process is iterative and experiential, not theoretical.

Leaders begin by gaining honest self-awareness: understanding how they are currently perceived, what emotional signals they project under pressure, and how their default communication style reads across cultures. This foundation phase often surfaces important blind spots — the technically brilliant executive who speaks too abstractly to inspire, the empathetic manager whose conflict-avoidance reads as a lack of conviction.

From there, leaders move into skill-building: practising charismatic communication tactics in safe, structured environments with real feedback. They learn to craft metaphors that carry cultural resonance, to tell personal stories that build connection without oversharing, to use contrast and rhetorical structure to sharpen their message. They receive coaching on non-verbal communication — the body language, vocal variety, and presence that Antonakis identifies as essential to bringing charisma alive.

Finally, leaders apply these skills in live contexts, with coaching support, and receive 360-degree feedback that tracks their progress. This mirrors the approach Antonakis found to be effective — group training combined with individual coaching — and embeds it within the broader cultural and emotional intelligence framework that makes the development durable and globally relevant.

Charisma as a Leadership Responsibility

There is a deeper point worth making. Charisma is not about making yourself more impressive. At its best, it is about making others feel seen, energised, and capable of more than they believed. It is about communicating in a way that bridges difference, builds shared purpose, and creates the conditions for people to do their best work.

In a world where leaders must navigate unprecedented complexity — technological disruption, geopolitical volatility, multi-generational and multicultural workforces — the ability to communicate with clarity, conviction, and emotional resonance is not optional. It is a strategic capability.

Prince didn't work on his charisma because he wanted to be famous. He worked on it because he knew, instinctively, that the music mattered — and that without the ability to connect, the music would never reach the people it was meant for.

The same is true of leadership. The work matters. Charisma is what carries it across.

 

About Gugin  |  Gugin is a global advisory firm specialising in cultural and emotional intelligence. We help organisations build the leadership capability to thrive in a complex, multicultural world. Learn more at www.gugin.com

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